“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change”, Brené Brown.
There are many reasons to make changes in our lives. We have a general feeling of unhappiness, we believe that life is passing us by, we want to be more abundant, have deeper connections to people, stop beating ourselves up about our past, improve our relationships or move past fear.
Any or all of those reasons are good enough to want to make a change in your life. And realizing change is necessary to move forward is the first and most important step. But after that it gets a little murky. We find we don’t have the resources to actually effect those changes even if we’ve read any number of self-help books.
I think sometimes, what we are missing is the key ingredient, the catalyst for change that will set the wheels in motion for a brand new life.
That catalyst is vulnerability. Until we can face our vulnerability and acknowledge it, allowing ourselves to be honest and open and brave the scariness of bringing our vulnerability to the surface, we have nothing to work with. It is the very vulnerability that we are trying to hide that is going to show us the way to that deeper, more resounding connection to who we really are.
Women seem to have the vulnerability thing figured out. They are able to sit with a close friend and tell them what they are feeling, about their fears and dreams and they can go to that raw and naked place within them that is so hard to expose.
Men, on the other hand, have a bit of a rougher time with it all. For the most part they are raised by a society that dictates a tough exterior, one of bravado, false courage and certainly no crying!
It’s time that men started looking at those very personal and fragile places within themselves where they don’t always feel tough, brave and sometimes really do want to cry. It’s the single most important thing to look at for personal growth and expansion.
Whether your buddies cry or not doesn’t matter. You might find out that there are more men out there that are pretending to be tough because they don’t want their pals to think they’re weak. There are two things wrong with this. The first thing is that vulnerability is NOT a weakness and most men want to be able to feel and be exactly what they are in any given moment without having to act tough.
My husband, Peter told me a story once about how some of his biker friends visited him at his home. They saw the movie “The Sound of Music” sitting on his book shelf and starting teasing him about it. He confirmed that he liked the movie and as he did so another “tough” guy piped up and shared that he liked the movie as well. You never know until you have a voice who else might be feeling exactly as you do.
Embrace your vulnerability as a part of yourself that can help you explore your inner essence, the person you really are under the rough exterior. You may be surprised at how it can change your life.
With love and kindness
If you're a man who is looking to make changes in his life and would like to learn how, you can find out more about how I can help you at: The Soul Connection